“God has made everything beautiful in its time”, Ecclesiastes 3:11
If you are reading this post, you are probably looking for some encouragement for remaining faithful and hopeful in the season of singleness you have been in for so long. You probably tell yourself that it’s okay to be single because God is all you need, but comparison, jealousy, fear and doubts still get in your head now and then. You question your faith sometimes, God’s plan for your life and your future. You look around and see your friends getting married, or at least dating, and you start asking yourself and God why isn’t it your turn to be happy like them too.
If you are feeling unhappy because of the way singleness makes you feel, I am glad you are here reading this because I am going to make good points to prove to you that singleness is a blessing, rather than a curse you have been telling yourself it is.
Dating is not something people talk about in churches, is it? There is a good reason for it. Relationships are important because we are created to love others. Dating, however, is not the relationship Jesus was concerned about.
Jesus was single. Marriage was not the purpose of his ministry, much less his earthly life. He was not teaching his disciples how to choose the right one. He did not tell them to go and find good and godly wives.
The Gospel of Jesus Christ is based on love for people and that’s what every believer, whether single, dating, married, must be concerned about every day of their life.
The season of singleness is very precious and unique. It is a gift. It is a blessing in so many ways. There are so many advantages of being single:
You focus on God and how to please Him.
You have more time for serving at church, attending small groups and conferences. Pray about your spiritual gift and for God to show you how to use it to serve others.
You increase other relationships in your life.
It can be the time to lead a small group, enroll in some course at church, or volunteer for non-profit organizations to make new friends and share the Gospel with others.
You invest in your own growth (career,education, traveling) and health.
Couldn’t be a better time for getting enrolled in school, finally getting that Master’s you saved money for for a long time, starting your own business or a project you have been dreaming about. You might want to do that dental work you planned now, before you have your kids to worry about.
You learn how to be content in Christ.
As you are waiting to meet the right person, invest the time in the one who already is your one and only - JESUS! Strengthening your relationships with Him will help you in your marriage in the future. If you are content with where you are now, you will better appreciate the future blessings God has in store for you.
You are in preparation for the marriage phase, if you do have a desire to get married one day..
God designed all the seasons for their unique purposes and we must be ready for them. Just like here on earth we are being prepared for eternal life, so God is preparing our characters for every season we will enter next.
Embrace your singleness with joy, purpose and thanksgiving. What you learn now you will use to build healthy and biblical relationships with your spouse and your children..
Don’t waste this time! Learn who you are in Christ. Get wisdom. Grow in your faith.
FALL in LOVE with JESUS first.
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